Contrast between healthy and dependant relationships

Contrast between healthy and dependant relationships:

OPEN MODE

• There is room for the individual to expand his/ her full potential, personal growth is fostered, and there is a mutual desire of sharing personal achievements
• They keep separate interests and develop significant relationships
• There is room for the other to grow and this personal growth of the other is welcome. There is high self esteem, certainty of one's personal values
• Trust, open attitude, understanding
• Readiness to embark on new protects, to open up new paths,accepting new risks without losing authenticity
• There is a development of the capacity of being alone
• Positive feelings towards the person one has broken with

CLOSED MODE

• Dependency in this type of relationship is based upon security and comfort people live in fear, loneliness and they fight for exercising control
• Personal interests are neglected, there is a total involvement with the other person's interests. Lives are reduced and limited
• There is a dependency upon the other's appreciation of one owns potential
• The person is apprehensive of the others,there is a feeling of competition and mutual distrust
• The person wants to become invulnerable, refuses to take risks and clings to the old things he already knows
  Intolerance. Incapacity of breaking up relationships even in spite of the fact they do not work
• The person becomes manipulative, contriving strategies to go back to the relationship. He/she becomes violent and loathes the inevitability of separation.